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Being a husband is a BIG job men! I myself fail at it daily and have to remind myself that my faith and my witness for my Holy God ALL hinges on how I love my wife, amen?
But how do we do it in a way to honor God?
In Genesis 2 we see God saying this:
Sadly, we often see couples NOT clinging to each other but to MANY other things that they get wrapped up in via the sinful, God rebellious culture. Men and woman are both guilty of this but for this article my focus is on the men.
Ladies please go here for instruction on your biblical role in marriage:
http://spiritandtruthdiscernment.blogspot.com/search/label/WOMEN
Holy scripture is quite clear on the role of Christian husbands. Christ modeled what a real man is and we men are told to imitate him ( and Paul ) to live out lives fully honoring to God.
The Apostle Paul told us this:
Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ
1 Corinthians 11:1
No scripture better sums up what we men are to do towards our wives than this:
We are to put God first, then our wives next and NOTHING in between. Not jobs, or children or friends or our own interests or even our life itself. Easier said then done, I understand, but it is doable per God's Spirit and His truth if you are born of Him and striving for a fully biblical life (daily) per His Word.
If you read /study God's Holy Word it does not take long to see that the entire Word of God from Genesis to Revelation was and is all about Jesus Christ. He came to live a perfect life, show us the way to life and then surrender Himself for His bride, His called out ekklesia ( body ) that will faithfully follow Him unto eternal life to come.
He died for that bride due to His love for her!
With Christ as our example men, what then shall we do for our wives on a daily basis?
The truth is you and I need to be loving/lifting up our wives, serving them and treating them as THE most important thing in the world to us besides our service and faith in Christ. Sounds so simple right, but it is easily lost in the fallen culture we walk through daily. It is so easy to over look this truth and allow things to get in the way of that love God has commanded we daily exhibit for her. Some things men have within them that we may struggle with in fully loving our wives is:
*Pride
*Lack of patience
*Self-ism
*Your mothers over influence on you
*Lust in this openly sexual culture
*Anger/stress
*Covetousness
*Material desires
*Extended family members
*Children's needs
*Your career goals
Some of the things in your wife that you may struggle with if you both are not living a fully biblical life today are:
*Feminism
*Varied schedules / lack of quality time together
*Her clinging to her mom/dad not her husband
*Her seeming to favor the children over you
*Her career goals
*Her tender emotions ( up and down )
*Her friends
*Her job / being near other man daily
*Her not submitting to you
*Her not respecting you
*How you spend your combined money
*Holidays
Note: a Christian wife at home tending the children would eliminate many of these issues.
All these are all great challenges to a godly marriage so be warned and ready! Most so called believers we see are NOT living fully biblical lives but religious ones so they have to encounter these extra challenges. Why?
In today's feminized culture we see a lot of worldly issues between husbands and wives causing great stress and often ending in divorce. The roles of man and woman have been turned upside down by a sinful culture and you men (and your so called Christian places/Sunday denominational religion) have allow it over the decades. Today's modern pastors are very watered down and have sadly NOT taught biblically. They have not taught against the culture's ill ways as to warn couples and they fear their pews will empty if they do so. They have sold out for favor vs all truth! They are not true men of God but false hirelings.
Note: most couples who claim Christ are NOT living out fully biblical holy lives so they create many problems that a godly obedient biblical life would eliminate. Please consider that will you?
See this article on getting your home in biblical order: http://spiritandtruthdiscernment.blogspot.com/2017/09/get-your-home-in-biblical-order.html
Those unbiblical things that will cause you a great challenges are ladies out working in the world, placing children into daycare and public schools, couples over loading themselves with debt, men pursuing hobbies / interests ( entertainment, moves, sports, hunting fishing etc ) at the expense of their spiritual life/families well being, men tempting themselves with other women and wives dressing and acting in ways that show themselves off to other men besides their own husbands.
Those are just a few sad examples that cause bitterness due to sinful lives lived out today in America. You can change that but it takes repenting and following God's Word and not your own ways.
In Colossians 3:19 Paul says this:
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
This is important as because of the many issues sinful feminism has caused many men are indeed often bitter against their wives and marriages. How can we battle this and have victory over it? Knowing the Lord via being born again, His truth and the love/hope of God of course is the key for us all.
In 1 Peter 3:7 we read this:
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
If we godly men will obey God first then view our wives correctly without bitterness we can view them as we should per God's Word that our prayers not be hindered. This will help us to treat them with love, patience and gentleness as we do it unto the Lord to honor our faith in Him. (I need work here I admit but we must strive in it daily.)
We also see in 1 Peter 3 the admonision for a woman to win an unbelieving or disobedient husband without a word by her godly behavior, likewise if a man is married to either an unbelieving or disobedient wife, he can (by godly example) possibly win her through his patient, kind, loving example. Women are instructed to respect and submit to their husbands so men, your job is to become the godly man that they want to respect and submit to.
1 Timothy 3:12 tells us this about leaders in God's body:
Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
Even if you are not a deacon or an elder, this is the example for us men in our own homes. You are to be committed to your wife, lead the home in a godly manner and be examples for your wife and family.
You MUST lead men, even if your wife disagrees as you serve God first, then her. This is very hard for a Christian man today but it is your service to God.
see Romans 12:1-2
He must lead in what God's Word says and love his wife even if she may rebel against your leading. Your example and strength in Christ will be very important.
Jesus said we could indeed lose a spouse (wife) for our faith and obedience to Him in Matthew 10 and we would be blessed if that happened.
But it does not have to be that way so please take heart. The love of a husband can do much IF he walks according to God's Word and not his own ways of the flesh. (Like anger, lording over and strife.)
Much is to blame on man made evangelical religion that is compromised and has caused so much of the issues we have discussed above. By caving into the fallen corrupt culture around them, they are NOT teaching all truth from the bible but a compromised hollow religious life that will not do for a godly marriage.
We at dontperish.com speak from much experience, both good and the bad as well! We have lived out much of what we have discussed as a married couple. We had to leave man made religion/family, cling to each other and live for God in truth and holiness lest we would not have survived as man man wife. Thankfully we have endured for His glory all because of His truth, nothing of own merit.
As a man serving Christ I have only one hope for you and your marriage gentlemen. You MUST be born of God then you have to read, know and obey all of God's Word in your daily life. Going to church is NOT living a holy obedient life unto God. You must be a man of the Word.
Hebrews 5:9 says... His people OBEY Him.
This godly knowledge and obedience will call you out of the fallen world to be holy ( set apart for God ). You will then kill your own flesh and arrange your life and marriage to meet His high ways/standards not your own fallen ways. Then once your daily focus is fully on Him and His ways, many of your challenges in a marriage are greatly reduced but not all are gone. You should rejoice then as you have a powerful source of strength the world knows nothing of, His Holy Spirit and the Word of the Living God!
Remember Jesus died for His bride:
Who gave himself for our sins, that he might deliver us from this present evil world, according to the will of God and our Father:
Galatians 1:4
So then, what will you do for your wife men?
We are here to help you just let us know how.
Go to these resources below as a great help in God's truth!
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Here is the biblical gospel:
http://www.dontperish.com/the-gospel.html
http://www.dontperish.com/audios-page-2.html
( use control F to find the audio )
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Being a husband is a BIG job men! I myself fail at it daily and have to remind myself that my faith and my witness for my Holy God ALL hinges on how I love my wife, amen?
But how do we do it in a way to honor God?
In Genesis 2 we see God saying this:
but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Sadly, we often see couples NOT clinging to each other but to MANY other things that they get wrapped up in via the sinful, God rebellious culture. Men and woman are both guilty of this but for this article my focus is on the men.
Ladies please go here for instruction on your biblical role in marriage:
http://spiritandtruthdiscernment.blogspot.com/search/label/WOMEN
Holy scripture is quite clear on the role of Christian husbands. Christ modeled what a real man is and we men are told to imitate him ( and Paul ) to live out lives fully honoring to God.
The Apostle Paul told us this:
Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ
1 Corinthians 11:1
No scripture better sums up what we men are to do towards our wives than this:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:25-31We are to put God first, then our wives next and NOTHING in between. Not jobs, or children or friends or our own interests or even our life itself. Easier said then done, I understand, but it is doable per God's Spirit and His truth if you are born of Him and striving for a fully biblical life (daily) per His Word.
If you read /study God's Holy Word it does not take long to see that the entire Word of God from Genesis to Revelation was and is all about Jesus Christ. He came to live a perfect life, show us the way to life and then surrender Himself for His bride, His called out ekklesia ( body ) that will faithfully follow Him unto eternal life to come.
He died for that bride due to His love for her!
With Christ as our example men, what then shall we do for our wives on a daily basis?
The truth is you and I need to be loving/lifting up our wives, serving them and treating them as THE most important thing in the world to us besides our service and faith in Christ. Sounds so simple right, but it is easily lost in the fallen culture we walk through daily. It is so easy to over look this truth and allow things to get in the way of that love God has commanded we daily exhibit for her. Some things men have within them that we may struggle with in fully loving our wives is:
*Pride
*Lack of patience
*Self-ism
*Your mothers over influence on you
*Lust in this openly sexual culture
*Anger/stress
*Covetousness
*Material desires
*Extended family members
*Children's needs
*Your career goals
Some of the things in your wife that you may struggle with if you both are not living a fully biblical life today are:
*Feminism
*Varied schedules / lack of quality time together
*Her clinging to her mom/dad not her husband
*Her seeming to favor the children over you
*Her career goals
*Her tender emotions ( up and down )
*Her friends
*Her job / being near other man daily
*Her not submitting to you
*Her not respecting you
*How you spend your combined money
*Holidays
Note: a Christian wife at home tending the children would eliminate many of these issues.
All these are all great challenges to a godly marriage so be warned and ready! Most so called believers we see are NOT living fully biblical lives but religious ones so they have to encounter these extra challenges. Why?
In today's feminized culture we see a lot of worldly issues between husbands and wives causing great stress and often ending in divorce. The roles of man and woman have been turned upside down by a sinful culture and you men (and your so called Christian places/Sunday denominational religion) have allow it over the decades. Today's modern pastors are very watered down and have sadly NOT taught biblically. They have not taught against the culture's ill ways as to warn couples and they fear their pews will empty if they do so. They have sold out for favor vs all truth! They are not true men of God but false hirelings.
Note: most couples who claim Christ are NOT living out fully biblical holy lives so they create many problems that a godly obedient biblical life would eliminate. Please consider that will you?
See this article on getting your home in biblical order: http://spiritandtruthdiscernment.blogspot.com/2017/09/get-your-home-in-biblical-order.html
Those unbiblical things that will cause you a great challenges are ladies out working in the world, placing children into daycare and public schools, couples over loading themselves with debt, men pursuing hobbies / interests ( entertainment, moves, sports, hunting fishing etc ) at the expense of their spiritual life/families well being, men tempting themselves with other women and wives dressing and acting in ways that show themselves off to other men besides their own husbands.
Those are just a few sad examples that cause bitterness due to sinful lives lived out today in America. You can change that but it takes repenting and following God's Word and not your own ways.
In Colossians 3:19 Paul says this:
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
This is important as because of the many issues sinful feminism has caused many men are indeed often bitter against their wives and marriages. How can we battle this and have victory over it? Knowing the Lord via being born again, His truth and the love/hope of God of course is the key for us all.
In 1 Peter 3:7 we read this:
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
If we godly men will obey God first then view our wives correctly without bitterness we can view them as we should per God's Word that our prayers not be hindered. This will help us to treat them with love, patience and gentleness as we do it unto the Lord to honor our faith in Him. (I need work here I admit but we must strive in it daily.)
We also see in 1 Peter 3 the admonision for a woman to win an unbelieving or disobedient husband without a word by her godly behavior, likewise if a man is married to either an unbelieving or disobedient wife, he can (by godly example) possibly win her through his patient, kind, loving example. Women are instructed to respect and submit to their husbands so men, your job is to become the godly man that they want to respect and submit to.
1 Timothy 3:12 tells us this about leaders in God's body:
Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
Even if you are not a deacon or an elder, this is the example for us men in our own homes. You are to be committed to your wife, lead the home in a godly manner and be examples for your wife and family.
You MUST lead men, even if your wife disagrees as you serve God first, then her. This is very hard for a Christian man today but it is your service to God.
see Romans 12:1-2
He must lead in what God's Word says and love his wife even if she may rebel against your leading. Your example and strength in Christ will be very important.
Jesus said we could indeed lose a spouse (wife) for our faith and obedience to Him in Matthew 10 and we would be blessed if that happened.
But it does not have to be that way so please take heart. The love of a husband can do much IF he walks according to God's Word and not his own ways of the flesh. (Like anger, lording over and strife.)
Much is to blame on man made evangelical religion that is compromised and has caused so much of the issues we have discussed above. By caving into the fallen corrupt culture around them, they are NOT teaching all truth from the bible but a compromised hollow religious life that will not do for a godly marriage.
We at dontperish.com speak from much experience, both good and the bad as well! We have lived out much of what we have discussed as a married couple. We had to leave man made religion/family, cling to each other and live for God in truth and holiness lest we would not have survived as man man wife. Thankfully we have endured for His glory all because of His truth, nothing of own merit.
As a man serving Christ I have only one hope for you and your marriage gentlemen. You MUST be born of God then you have to read, know and obey all of God's Word in your daily life. Going to church is NOT living a holy obedient life unto God. You must be a man of the Word.
Hebrews 5:9 says... His people OBEY Him.
This godly knowledge and obedience will call you out of the fallen world to be holy ( set apart for God ). You will then kill your own flesh and arrange your life and marriage to meet His high ways/standards not your own fallen ways. Then once your daily focus is fully on Him and His ways, many of your challenges in a marriage are greatly reduced but not all are gone. You should rejoice then as you have a powerful source of strength the world knows nothing of, His Holy Spirit and the Word of the Living God!
Remember Jesus died for His bride:
Who gave himself for our sins, that he might deliver us from this present evil world, according to the will of God and our Father:
Galatians 1:4
So then, what will you do for your wife men?
We are here to help you just let us know how.
Go to these resources below as a great help in God's truth!
***********************************
Here is the biblical gospel:
http://www.dontperish.com/the-gospel.html
Here is a 10 point biblical test:
Go here for audio teachings:
His true people follow Him in spirit and truth (John 4:24) NOT.... man made false ways or today's denominational religion.
God be praised
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