Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. (Ephesians 5:22-23)
Wives, are you leading your husband or submitting to him? God's Word commands godly women to submit to their husbands 'as unto Christ' and 'in everything'. (Not sin though, see Acts 5:29) Keep in mind the part 'as unto Christ.' Think long and hard how wives should react to our Savior Jesus Christ having them do something then give that same honor and obedience to their husband; "In all things", not just what wives deem worthy.
This is a strong command and the reason for it is because women can have an influence on their husbands and lead them astray (see Adam and Eve in the garden.) Men have their role to play and regardless of what they are doing about it, godly women are to submit to their husbands (even if they are not in Christ). In this age of feminism we see the majority of women ruling and leading the home, even when they deny it or don't realize it. (See an article HERE on feminism.) The husband allows them to do whatever they please because he doesn't want to deal with a contentious wife (Proverbs 25:24), or a wife that may use her emotions to manipulate him (even when she doesn't realize it). Yes these are hard teachings but true, otherwise we wouldn't see the commands we see, in God's Word. We encourage godly wives to examine themselves in every area to see if they can become more submissive as this is a great calling for a wife.
This is a strong command and the reason for it is because women can have an influence on their husbands and lead them astray (see Adam and Eve in the garden.) Men have their role to play and regardless of what they are doing about it, godly women are to submit to their husbands (even if they are not in Christ). In this age of feminism we see the majority of women ruling and leading the home, even when they deny it or don't realize it. (See an article HERE on feminism.) The husband allows them to do whatever they please because he doesn't want to deal with a contentious wife (Proverbs 25:24), or a wife that may use her emotions to manipulate him (even when she doesn't realize it). Yes these are hard teachings but true, otherwise we wouldn't see the commands we see, in God's Word. We encourage godly wives to examine themselves in every area to see if they can become more submissive as this is a great calling for a wife.
One big area of concern is the house. Women are to be the keepers of the home (Titus 2) it does not mean she has all say about what goes on inside it. Women have a tendency to spend more money than is necessary on essentials and waste a lot of money (and time) doing so. Take a look around your home, who decorated it? (The majority of homes are decorated by women.) Most men would be happy with simple, bare essentials when it comes to the basics of a home but women go overboard matching the sofa to the loveseat and the curtains to the sofa pillows with various colored walls. The dinner plates have to match the bowls and the silverware all has to be the same design. Bedding cannot be mismatched and towels should all be color coordinated, even the hand soap dispenser matches the bathroom decor etc.... Now, there is nothing wrong with buying matching pieces if you find them at the same price as you would a basic piece and nothing wrong with a few decorations but women must be very careful not to be swept away in such things. A tidy, organized, homey look about a house lends to a cozy and welcoming atmosphere but keep in mind, your husband has to live there as well. He may say 'I don't care what you do' but did he say that because he doesn't want to face a pouting or dissatisfied wife? Would he be more comfortable in something that isn't flowery and instead a plain look that he's not scared to death to dirty if he comes in from work? Is he afraid to walk on your freshly mopped, sparkling white floors? Does he have to take off his shoes before he can go relax in the living room? Is he worried that he might break that delicate plate or glass you set before him? Who hangs up all the pictures on the walls and puts trinkets on the shelves? Does he have to help you keep rearranging the furniture because you want a 'new look'? That's not to say that a wife cannot have a sense of simple decor in the home but if they were to examine all this they will most likely see that they have not deferred to their husbands and encouraged him to share his desires of the house and what is in it, they have taken the lead/control and made it into what they want. It becomes their domain and the husband looks to seek relaxation elsewhere like the garage, outside etc.
Along with the house and the furnishings is the location of where they live. Time and time again we hear men saying they would love to sell their house and live debt free in something simple in the country but they "can't" because their wife would never allow it. Wives, has your husband expressed a desire to downsize? Move? Eliminate that mortgage and live more simple? What has your response been? In our business we often encounter men who want to make a decision but they have to go home and talk to the 'boss', meaning their wife. We also see that in the world it's mostly the women leading the men in their pagan holidays like Christmas, spending the money on them and dragging husbands around to the parties. (See an article HERE on Christmas)
Money is a big issue and it goes right along with what was mentioned above. Women spend too much money on useless things. Excess kitchen gadgets, special foods for fancy recipes (most men like their few basic meals and are happy with them), excess household items, buying too much on the internet (supplements, lotions, special teas, pricey candles, drinks etc.), clothes that are never worn... A man is to provide for the home so therefore he, as the leader, should have the say on what the money is spent on. Even if he gives free reign, please consider discussing all things with him and be ready to accept the answer he gives.
When you go somewhere do you insist on driving? Do you determine what time to leave, where to go and what route to take? If he wants to eat out while doing errands do you allow him to choose where he would like to go? (Does it really matter to you?) Who does most of the talking? Who leads the discussions? Do 'hear' your husband when he has suggestions or ideas? Are you focused on being that helpmeet for your husband or are you thinking more about what you want? Is your husband afraid to talk to you about something he would like to change? (That's something to think about.)
(We also see it's the women who are leading the men around from one spiritual venture to the next trying out this denomination, then that one etc. See an article HERE for women on that issue as well as many articles on this website that expose man made religion.)
(We also see it's the women who are leading the men around from one spiritual venture to the next trying out this denomination, then that one etc. See an article HERE for women on that issue as well as many articles on this website that expose man made religion.)
Wives, would the world look at you and see a quiet, meek, humble, submissive wife, willing to serve her husband in a joyful and cheerful manner? If you cannot say that in all areas of your life then you need to repent and begin to search your heart and ask God to reveal where you need to change and give you the strength to do so.
God be praised!
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God be praised!
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